The Anathema of Judgement

Lady-Justice-Marilyn-Monroe-Lanoo11It is the desire of the mind to structure the world around it.

It’s not a bad thing. Labouring under the presumption that the entirety of existence is capable of being pigeon-holed has brought us many great scientific realisations. But there is a danger in applying analytical mental associations within a moral or ethical context.

I am, in fact, talking about the perils of standing in judgement of one’s self or one’s environment.

Now, before I continue, let me just define what I mean by ‘judgement’. It may seem a matter of semantics, but I place a distinction between ‘judgement’ and ‘discernment’. To me, judgement is the act of placing a moral, ethical or analytical imperative for one ideal over another, i.e., that doctor is better than that car thief. Whereas I see discernment as the act of consciously perceiving a difference between two ideals, i.e., that doctor is different from that car thief. Though this distinction might seem subjective and differs depending on an individual’s understanding of the terms, I think that it’s an important one to make.

For those of you who don’t know, I used to work as an alternative health practitioner. The alternative therapy I practiced was a form of energetic healing which relied heavily on elements of counselling in order to get people to release their baggage of their own accord. And do you know what my years of energetic healing taught me?

People can be really hard on themselves.

Like, really hard on themselves. The more energetic work I practiced, the clearer it became that many people hold themselves just as accountable, if not more so, than anyone else in their environment. The harsher their judgement of their environment, the harsher their judgement of themselves, and this wasn’t just limited to moral and ethical judgement either. Many people would look at someone with a bigger slice of cake and think ‘that slice of cake is logically better than mine’. As a result, their subconscious would reach the analytical conclusion that it was therefore good to have a big slice of cake and bad to have a small slice of cake. By applying moral and ethical absolutes like ‘good’ and ‘bad’ to the analytical spectrum, it became easier to make sense of an oft chaotic world.

So, what’s the problem?

Logically, if you think it’s bad to have a small slice of cake, you’ll endeavour to get a bigger slice of cake. The act of observing the flaws inherent in your situation will only drive you to improve said situation… right?

Actually, no. Not always. A lot of the people that I met through my energetic healing who perceived themselves as ‘badended up vilifying themselves because, from a logical perspective, if their situation was bad then they, by association, were bad also. And if they were bad, how could they possibly fix themselves…?

Has it ever occurred to you that most people who pursue a life crime tend to come from troubled homes? Now, certainly it’s an easy argument to make that they’re the product of their environments. But bearing what I’ve said in mind, isn’t it easy to see how they might largely be the product of their own judgements and the way in which they’ve been taught to judge the world? i.e., if my situation is bad, therefore I am bad by association…

Judgement is an anathema, a poison that is deeply rooted in our society. Judging something to be ‘good’ is symptomatic of the same wound as judging something to be ‘bad’. They are two sides of the same coin; you can’t have one without the other.

I believe that it’s important to avoid judging the merit of everything from a position of analytical or moral imperative. We are just ants, scurrying about our tunnels, hungering after sugar and sunlight. How can we hope to see the full panorama of our existence when we only use our eyes?

Don’t choose to pass judgement, whether on yourselves or on each other. Instead, know discernment. Know that some things are different from other things. Know what you want, and be prepared to work towards it. But also know that no one thing is truly better or worse than any other.

Of course, if nothing is better than anything else, why bother aspiring towards anything? Without the carrot and the stick, how do we now function? No longer donkeys, but something more…

Still, that might be a discussion for another day. 😉

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34 thoughts on “The Anathema of Judgement

  1. We live in a relative universe. There is literally no fundamental basis on which to judgment ( though that doesn’t seem to stop us). Good – bad, right – wrong whose to say. Any agreement we have as a culture on such notions, is just that agreement. And as Freud suggested sanity is a quantitative thing. So it is with any judgement; the more people who agree, the more validity we assign to it. As for aspiration, we don’t need judgment to supply it as the natural state of the human spirit is one of expansiveness. In fact, there is very little of egoic consciousness that serves us in any positive way, but instead creates a limited understanding of life. I see discernment as the discovery of what is true, and awareness of truth comes from our intuitive wisdom not our intellect. To live with discernment rather than judgement, as you have defined it, is to live in a reality that is truth – based. Jesus wasn’t kidding when he said, “Judge not,” but not for the reasons that religions teach. There is an even greater toll on us that judgement takes that has yet been mentioned here, but that too is for another day.

  2. Guilt is a trap that shackles the soul. Yes, I follow the teachings of Jesus, but some of the stuff I see (hear) coming from certain ‘Christians’ and from those who flat out hate what they preach bothers me. There seems to be so much tension on both sides. (I know this post wasn’t about that, but it’s just where my brain went this morning). Hate, judge, blame… At what point do we love, help, free ourselves?

    • I understand your frustration, Olivia. Sadly, it easy to get caught up in structure and hierarchy, whether in the form of organised religion or simply an analytical mindset. I do believe though, for what it’s worth, that people are getting better. Sometimes making mistakes is just part f the learning process, I guess. Cheers for your insightful comment. ^^

  3. Thank you so much for this post, I continue to learn the more I follow, not bad for a kid stuck in this old mans body. Would you not say?

    • We’re all children unto ourselves, Chris. Make sure you take just as much care with yourself as you would any child, and you’ll be fine. 😉

      And glad you enjoyed it. ^^

  4. I don’t see anything wrong in judging that, say, hurting people deliberately is bad. I believe it is. It’s a bad thing to do.
    I fully understand your point about people being harsher on themselves than on others. I’ve spent forty years wrestling this particulat monster. I try not to judge otheres, though they often puzzle me. I am a very harsh critic of myself. It’s not based on any idea of a ‘bigger slice of the cake.’ I don’t look at myself and think ‘I’d be so much better if I were like XXX.’ I look at myself and see my shortcomings in my terms, what I’d like to be, who I’d like to be.
    Some days I’m fine. I like myself. I’m rarely jealous, though I am sometimes envious. Other days I really don’t like me at all. Not by comparison. By absolute standards that I apply to me.
    Yes, I know. My various therapists have told me I’m too hard on myself. Well guess what? I know that.

    • I had this conversation with one of my sisters a little while back, and she had a similar outlook to you, Duncan. It’s cool if you don’t agree, you’ve got to do what you think’s best. As I’ve said to you before, and as I also said to my sister, just as long as you’re happy. That’s all that matters to me. 🙂

      • I’m glad. You’re obviously a very intelligent person with an excellent blog and community of fellow bloggers willing to support you (regardless of whether your opinion differs from their own ;)). You have every reason to feel content. 🙂

      • Yeah, they don’t mind a difference of opinion do they? As long as it’s supported, and isn’t abusive, they just go ‘Ih well, that’s how he sees it. ‘ Coolio

  5. ‘External durance turns to internal altercation.’
    Love this. I love your poem , period! I have been so busy with family and collaborating with my blogs that I have been missing out on some fantastic blogs, like yours!
    Keep it up,
    Continued success,
    Jennifer

  6. Superb thoughts. I read a wonderful book a while ago that changed my life completely, and in it he said this about judgments: If you are driving to San Francisco, and a man says you are driving towards San Jose, this is not a judgement, it is a truth based on where you say you desire to go. I hold no judgments, as they walk the same line as expectations. With them, you see the world as you want it, not as it is. The thing with judgments, when they are truths like above, is they often force people to recognize the things they’ve denied and they don’t like that. It’s cool you worked in alternateive healing. I believe the Health Care Industry is a business: treat the symptons, but don’t cure the problem. No money there. Read a book in high school by Robert Bruce called Astral Dynamics, and it changed the way I view health, it’s for the most part all in the mind. And all things are related, judgments can lead to negative mind sets, which turns to festers in the mind, and manifest as a physical reality. So, let go of it all…..sorry, rambling. Good post!

    • Thanks Kody, and please, ramble away. That’s what this space is all about. ^^

      I agree completely. What interests me, and may create a grey area for many in years to come, is the abstract nature of that which is ‘true’. That which was once considered fact in scientific circles is quickly fluctuating. The most recent scientific journals are the ones accepted to be ‘most true’, but they in turn are often disproved by newer studies every few years. Because there’s so much money in science, everyone’s trying to prove that their truth has more validity in order to score grant money, whether it’s true or not. And don’t even get me started on the revelations quantum physics is unearthing about the nature of the world around us.

      Aaaanyway… my turn to ramble. Glad you enjoyed! 🙂

      • Ego coques carota. vos. adolebit in baculo. pulchre die uri. mitto salutes.
        fingere, mea poeta;)
        xx

      • For me, everything is true, and everything is false. It just depends on the perspective of the individual. I think this is a great secret to life. All people should have their views considered valid and respected, but it does not mean everyone has to agree or adopt those views. I love quantum physics. For every choice, there is a reaction, and there are infinite quantum realities in which those actions occur. I think that is just neat!

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